Lost Principle

Ok I wasn’t going waste my time on the situation but by the request of some people looks like I going to step up and put my two cents in on this horrific incident that transpired 2 days ago. This will be the one and only time I talk about this so check it out.

I am not going sit here and waste my time bashing the two particular individuals that obviously have gotten an ear full from thousands of other angry people ( if u want to know what I’m taking about  check the link to the story here http://www.wjla.com/articles/2013/01/matthew-maldanado-nicholas-schultz-accused-in-new-year-s-eve-rape-83850.html

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Center this blog another incident the sprung up which relates to the person who teaches these guys (if u want to know what I’m talking about check out the link to that story here  http://www.bloodyelbow.com/2013/1/10/3856994/team-lloyd-irvin-rape-case)

 

However what I will focus on is the forgotten principle that so many people have overlook/ignored when stepping into Martial arts. Since my return to competition as you have read in many of my past blogs I have talked about how experiences and practice in BJJ should be used to better yourself. When some people read my views they called me a HATER because I am not a medal chaser or compete at the highest level. Hmm pretty valid stand I guess. However let me tell u the problem with people’s opinion on my views.

There are A LOT people from different timelines that come into martial arts ( BJJ in this case) for the wrong reasons. Back in the early 90’s people saw Royce Gracie and wanted to be tough and break arms like him. Today one glimpse of the UFC boom everyone want to learn BJJ. As some of these people start to grow  (most likely) their ego gets bigger, the accomplishments/ medal stack rises then all of a sudden they have this “I’m feeling myself” attitude about themselves. The sad part is a lot of you Man fans/ Stans in BJJ end up falling in love with these people because they are WINNING and are such “GREAT PEOPLE” not knowing the truth behind the medals and happy faces in their moment of glory.

Now how does what I say relate to the incident. One’s attitude during practice and as an martial artitst transfers off the mat in their daily lives which causes them to make bad choices some of which lead to serious consequences. These clowns that did this to the girl are an example of  people that exist in our sport that have learned nothing but how to chase medals, brag about hurting people, and wanting people to adore them. Then when shocking news like this pops up everyone is so shocked and say it a “sad day for BJJ” no genius it’s not a sad day for BJJ.. BJJ is literally sad by the minute ….

If anything It’s a Sad day for the Victim.

There are two points I want to make concerning my above analogy…..

1.       We as a community need to focus on what this sport original purpose was which is to help you grow as a person in a positive way. Don’t get a wrong it cool to win in competition and learn stuff however acquire that through your journey of your purpose of becoming a better person. I can’t begin to talk about how much this sport has helped me. Also instructors need to start promoting the sport properly to prevent problems like this. The biggest problem I always had with Lloyd JJ marketing is he  promotes it as a way to draw people to become “champions” nothing else which is all a person will think about no matter if they grow positively on the inside or not. I learned long ago u can have all the money and all the medals in the world. But when you die and leave this earth your real legacy will be defined by what you have done for your fellow man.
      

        When it come to Monta Wiley (ME) Everyday of my life I am always striving or finding a way to become a better person than I once was yesterday.  Am I perfect.. NO......however it doesnt mean I cant attempt to move one step closer at being just that.Correcting my  mistakes, learn how to treat people, and make decision for a positive change. These are things I learned through martial arts.

2.       For you people admiring these rising stars who are medal chasers or top BJJ personalities  this is a prime example of what you don’t know will shock you.  Alot of these people you ended up adding on facebook because they great don’t give a damn about your friendship. You have NO clue who these people truly are or what they do are after the grappling medal festivities is over. If anything start focusing on being inspired by your instructors who actual have hearts that care about you, training partners you bleed on the mat with, or people stories that actually have some personal struggle in their rise to the top you can relate too.

 

 I’ll end this blog with a quote from a great martial artist i did an article on. Learn it well folks

 

"There's a lot more to it than just learning different techniques on the mat and winning medals in competition. What Jiu-Jitsu really is at the end of the day, is a vehicle to better your life in every single aspect.”- Harryson Franz